FACILITATING EXCELLENCE

When often we struggle to make sense of why the life has been unkind to us, we come us across some people who shine like a beacon of hope giving us confidence, and helping us make believe in ourselves. They ooze confidence, they seem so sure themselves, that every time one bickers, their shining confident self  gives us hope that there is something to look forward to. And the truth about these confident people is, they are faking it atleast some percent of time. I wish I had a concrete survey to suggest what percent of time but I can confidently claim 30% of time. At other times; well they are sure of themselves. So what is the difference between the confident, sure and positive people and those with less confidence and clear unsure behavior. It is this scale. The scale of real versus fake..  the act which the people put up and are able to genuinely believe in that act. It kind of forms a part of our belief system. A belief system is broadly the set of stories and structures

My education and experience of interacting with people and going through various ups and downs of life myself, have taught me one basic thing. People are afraid, scared and definitely happy being so. Everything to life there is, is around conquering fear. I myself have hundreds that I harbor in the name of care, peace, love, self respect, ego, anger, injustice, frustrations, etc. I have no gyan on how to overcome it, because frankly speaking I am yet to tame mine. The thing with fear is that we love to live with it. It is our only friend which will help us be what we are. It helps us, makes us competitive, helps us to achieve the success we aim for, makes us smart, makes us ignorant, I guess it is not any thing else but fear which is the biggest employment industry of all times. Fear future go to a fortune teller, fear past go to a counselor, fear present have cake or bear, Fear is physical, mental, emotional, financial and the best of all kinds spiritual. As a dialogue goes one o

Someone told me very vehemently few days back.. People don't change Nupur...and I was confused. Why confused because I believe in change. so what exactly stops people from believing in change. I guess what my friend wanted to imply was that their basic nature remains the same. I agree, may be or not. Well having come this far, I see myself in different light. I see people relationships changing, priorities changing, environment changing, circumstances changing. It would be difficult for someone to envisage that a person would remain the same, with so much change. There is bound to be change. Good or bad is all a perception of the one who sees it. But people will change. It is very similar to a rock on the banks of a river. As time goes by, it may weather down, smoothen, sharpen, or even erode completely. We are no different. No matter how much we want to be fixed to an image of ourselves, we will erode, we will weather down, we will smoothen or for that matter sharpen and giv

 So I understand has been around for a long time. It is a corporate jargon which is very similar to say 'Sorry'. When I first heard the usage of this phrase, I found it slightly ironic. It often used in different ways. Sometimes its used as it is.. for example when someone approaches me or anyone, and relates something that really troubling them and I am stumped. Stumped not because I don't have a response, but because I don't know what is the correct response. So I say, " I understand." Hmm kind of gives it an added flavor in written chat language. Sometimes I understand can also actually mean I really do understand unless it is quintessentially followed by a but, or a for instance or an advice or something even remotely closer to that. You see ' I understand' in today's world is the go to phrase for all situations. A person is grieving someone's or something's loss, I understand; confronted with a difficult situation - I unders

How difficult we make life for us and also for children! The art of communication is easiest with them and most difficult with adults. Adults don't communicate, they want to be understood. Whereas children communicate. They tell you upfront what they want and how they want it and if you don't interfere much with their way of creativity, the end product is brilliant. As an adult we want to influence the other person without really wanting to make an effort of clarifying on our part what we want. Interestingly all communication issues be in workplace or at home start from there.What I Want? The scenario becomes more challenging when most of the time the answer to question is unclear in our minds as well and surprisingly enough we want the recipient of information to understand, decipher or analyze data. The worst is when I read or hear that children are the best manipulators to put it bluntly and I am thinking to myself, why do we have to give everything a label, why ca