FACILITATING EXCELLENCE

Life doesn't surprise you when you are thrown off guard. It shocks you when despite being thrown off guard, you realise that you are still thrown. and the support you expect is not there. Instead you get feeling that there is something happening, you are left alone, to struggle. This does not necessarily have to apply to professional space but can also apply to our personal spaces. Our friend circles, our family, our relationships. All relationships be it professional or personal require to grow. They also require to continuously innovate themselves, or in other words look for a spark. But that does not happen on its own? NO It requires introspection, effort and communication. Also the willingness to make change and the realization that the change Often we do not know that change is forthcoming. We often are encountered by surprise, shock, and many more similes when suddenly someone else or something else brings about the required change that was expected. We

   Today while sitting with my sister in law, she expressed her concern over the changed times. How her son's friends in the age group 11 to 13 were organizing parties and inviting everyone over. She was even surprised at her own reaction of allowing her son to attend such parties. Let me also tell you these were nothing more than birthday parties. So atypical cake cutting and bit of dance and ho halla was expected. What was even more surprising to her  was that her son chose not to go. The tables seemed to have turned. Till our generation, it was our parents who were deciding for us and now we have, it seems handed the baton over to the kids; or should I correct myself and call them Young Adults. When does this happen. and how does this transition take place. What are the skills we as parents are giving our children to ensure that they make informed choices? And when do we start giving them. Seems intriguing to me. There is a truth, a harsh reality. Parenting

But what if I refuse to move on. What if I don't  forget or forgive but carry on with my life with a part of me still saying; I wish it had worked. I wish in some parallel universe, the relationship had continued. What would that make me? unable to cope with my inner dilemma. There are so many situation in life when we do not want to let go. When I was very very young I had read somewhere, or may be heard; "if you love someone, set them free; if they come back they are yours; if they don't, they never were." Well, I know for sure that the lines made quite an impression even when they were not supposed to mean anything more than few words, and so to my mind I always thought letting go would  come very easily. Alas, that was not to be. my brush with letting go and truly letting go has been with something that I am just unable to get my head around. This was not how it was supposed to end. Infact, there wasn't even a beginning. What I am asked to l