Communication- The child's way
As an adult we want to influence the other person without really wanting to make an effort of clarifying on our part what we want. Interestingly all communication issues be in workplace or at home start from there.What I Want? The scenario becomes more challenging when most of the time the answer to question is unclear in our minds as well and surprisingly enough we want the recipient of information to understand, decipher or analyze data.
The worst is when I read or hear that children are the best manipulators to put it bluntly and I am thinking to myself, why do we have to give everything a label, why can't children's behavior be what it is, normal. It is funny people see labeling everything. Right from the tantrum the child has to the choice the child makes of what clothes to wear, to just be them.
Children are expected to be in control of their emotions and then when they aren't, they are further questioned on their lack of skills, its like programming them into a particular format. Parents judge them, teachers grade their emotional response, shouting is bad, obedience is good. Just today I was reading an article of instances where the children grew with depression in their houses. That is true and real.
Well I am not an expert on Parenting, actually far from it..being a parent myself, I sometimes wish there was an instruction manual to it.. or a guide or atleast a standard FAQs.. and then I get the response well no two children are alike and no one knows that better than me.. I have two and they are poles apart.
But in course of this beautiful journey, I am learning to listen to my children. I guess a life long learning that is, and often I am terrible at it. But I feel most successful only when I truly listen to the children's way of communicating.
The worst is when I read or hear that children are the best manipulators to put it bluntly and I am thinking to myself, why do we have to give everything a label, why can't children's behavior be what it is, normal. It is funny people see labeling everything. Right from the tantrum the child has to the choice the child makes of what clothes to wear, to just be them.
Children are expected to be in control of their emotions and then when they aren't, they are further questioned on their lack of skills, its like programming them into a particular format. Parents judge them, teachers grade their emotional response, shouting is bad, obedience is good. Just today I was reading an article of instances where the children grew with depression in their houses. That is true and real.
Well I am not an expert on Parenting, actually far from it..being a parent myself, I sometimes wish there was an instruction manual to it.. or a guide or atleast a standard FAQs.. and then I get the response well no two children are alike and no one knows that better than me.. I have two and they are poles apart.
But in course of this beautiful journey, I am learning to listen to my children. I guess a life long learning that is, and often I am terrible at it. But I feel most successful only when I truly listen to the children's way of communicating.
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