Moving On... Is it really Necessary?

By Nupur Pandey -













But what if I refuse to move on. What if I don't  forget or forgive but carry on with my life with a part of me still saying; I wish it had worked. I wish in some parallel universe, the relationship had continued. What would that make me? unable to cope with my inner dilemma. There are so many situation in life when we do not want to let go.

When I was very very young I had read somewhere, or may be heard; "if you love someone, set them free; if they come back they are yours; if they don't, they never were." Well, I know for sure that the lines made quite an impression even when they were not supposed to mean anything more than few words, and so to my mind I always thought letting go would  come very easily.

Alas, that was not to be. my brush with letting go and truly letting go has been with something that I am just unable to get my head around. This was not how it was supposed to end. Infact, there wasn't even a beginning. What I am asked to let go was to my mind never mine. So where is the question?
What is the challenge?


 

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